Mental Health

Theatre and Mental Health

If you or someone you know is in distress do not hesitate to call your local suicide hotline. This number in the USA is 1-800-273-8255, If you are outside the USA here are some international hotlines. If your country isn’t listed a quick Google search should turn up something. Additionally there are hotlines and resources for eating disorders, abuse, general depression and anxiety, and most other major issues. Not just suicide. Do not hesitate to ask and find a resource if you or someone else needs help.

Henri Tomic

Mental health has become an incredibly important discussion topic; there is almost no topic that is discussed in the news and online more frequently - other than maybe Trump and Brexit, of course.
Even though well-being and self-care have been a part of human life for centuries, it's almost like mindfulness, Eastern medicine and a new generation of influencers have made it trendy to care about suicide prevention and your mental health.
And in fact, inspirational quotes and raising awareness can really save lives. Nevertheless, there is another type of entertainment that had been doing exactly that for quite a while - the theatre.
Ever since we started producing plays, the mental state of the characters was of utmost importance to the plot, whether you look back to Shakespeare, or even farther back, all the way to Greek theatre, the challenge for the hero was to keep his sanity, with all the dramatic things happening around him. Depending on the type of play or show, he either succeeds or surrenders to his environment. Therefore, it is no wonder that almost any show can provide inspiration and give some energy and hope to its audience. 
We all go through tough times sometimes and are the heroes in our own stories, so why not utilizing our passion to prevent or cure mental illness?
Here are some ways in which we can use different ways of the theatre to work on our mental health: 

1. Dance: Swedish mental health professionals studied more than 100 teenage girls who were struggling with issues like depression and anxiety. Half of the girls were attending weekly dance classes, while the other half weren’t. The results indicated that the girls who took the dance classes had improved mental health and reported a boost in their mood. These positive effects lasted up to eight months after the dance classes ended. It could be concluded that dance might result in a very positive experience for participants and could potentially contribute to sustained new healthy habits. Apart from that, difference dance styles will have different other factors influencing one's health: 
- Almost any dance style trains the dancer's muscle strength and comes with a lot of movement. Both have shown in studies to be even more productive than most antidepressants. 
- Individual Dance styles (Jazz, Ballet, etc.) work a lot on your posture. Improving your posture is also known as power posing and can induce positive and healthy thoughts. 
- Music is one of the most powerful tools to express and live through emotions.
- Most dance styles benefit from collaboration. Interacting with others and a feeling of belonging can help you out of almost any crises and improve anxiety and depression.




2. Singing: A University of East Anglia study of singers involved in free weekly workshops in Norfolk found benefits to mood and social skills. It also had a positive effect in preventing relapses in clinically depressed patients. 
Breathing techniques are at the heart of most psychological treatments and are equally important in singing techniques. 
On top of that being able to improve one's voice, reaching and hitting more notes, and making music without any tools creates a feeling of a high self-efficacy, which is closely related to maintaining or gaining a stable mental health.

3. Acting/Drama therapy: "Under the guise of play and pretend, we can - for once - act in new ways. The bit of distance from real life afforded by drama enables us to gain perspective on our real-life roles and patterns and actions and to experiment actively with alternatives. ", says Renee Emunah, PhD, RDT/BCT the Director of the Drama Therapy Program at the California Institute of Integral Studies.
Stepping in somebody else's shoes allows you to leave behind your own problems and worries and also trains -similarly to singing - your sense of self-efficacy, which also gives you back control over your emotional regulation and mental health. Robert Landy, PhD, RDT/BCT, Founding Director of the Drama Therapy Program at New York University goes even further and states: "Unlike talk therapy, drama therapy gets there really fast. Role-playing -acting out issues and problems - is more effective than talking." Collaboration and getting in contact with others is at the core of drama therapy and has a similar effect to other gestalt or art therapies.

4. Watching theatre: Most mental illnesses work like a down-hill spiral, in order to move back up action and activity is required. However, activity requires motivation and inspiration, which is often hard to find. As all of you probably know, Musicals, Plays or even just Soundtracks can make you feel a lot better and inspire you to take your own life back into your own hands. This can often times be the spark to trigger an upwards movement, rather than a downwards one.
On top of that, the theatre forms a community in which anyone is welcomed, and one finds people to talk to even if it is just through social media. Having a social network around you makes most things a lot more endurable.  

With that, which other side effects of our all passion have you noticed? Have you ever been struggling and has the theatre helped you? Let me know in the comment section below. 

If you are struggling right now, I urge you to reach out for help, and in emergencies, call your local suicide prevention hotline. Keep moving on; we're all in this together!

 

"I've Had Enough of Just Passing By Life": How One Musical Changed Our Lives

Kelly Ostazeski

Fans of musicals often can cite one musical that changed their lives, whether it's the show that inspired a performer to pursue theatre as a career, the first show we ever saw that got us into theatre, or in this case, how a musical can bring us out of darkness and back to the light.

In this case, it's the musical Hello, Dolly, and how the recent revival impacted so many lives. No matter what actress the audience saw play Dolly, they left the Shubert Theatre transformed. I've interviewed several fans of the show who felt that this one show somehow impacted their lives. Most of the interviewees, including myself, saw actress Donna Murphy as Dolly, but a few here also saw Bernadette Peters and Bette Midler.

Before we proceed, there's something that makes the show even more powerful: both Murphy and Peters share a connection with their character, their own personal loss of their husbands. This makes certain moments, like Dolly's monologues to Ephraim to let her go and let her move on, even more emotional. People often think of Hello, Dolly as a simple, fun musical comedy - and it is, but like so many classics, there is so much depth and emotion at its core. This show is about a woman who wants to move on from the loss of her husband. Yes, she's a matchmaker and she meddles in the lives of the other characters, but while she improves the lives of those around her and helps them, she also needs to find her own happiness again.

Without Dolly Levi, I wouldn't be a writer for this blog. Because of this show, I've found a goal again, a drive again, and I felt my heart coming alive again. Yes, these are lyrics to the famous and inspirational song "Before the Parade Passes By". These are the lyrics that changed me. Before I saw the show (a second time, and it happened to be Murphy's last performance, on January 7, 2018 - a year ago, exactly. Yes, I planned this article for the anniversary of the life-affirming, changing performance).

I knew I was depressed. I'd given up on my career goals and I was settling for a job I had no passion in. I had just lost my grandmother and several other sources of inspiration in early 2016. I felt stuck for two years and filled the void with anything I could distract myself with. There was always a looming feeling of emptiness. I had no reason to carry on. When I saw the show a first time, I loved it, but I guess I wasn't ready to let go. Perhaps the universe was trying to get me to open my heart again.

Something about the energy of the audience, the joy of the show, the optimism of Dolly Levi and her personal journey to "rejoining the human race", and the masterful, emotional performance of Donna Murphy - something woke up inside my heart that day a year ago. I literally "felt my heart coming alive again" as I sat in the theatre. I was changed. Not only could I feel the love of theatre and performing radiating from Murphy on stage, and from the cast members to this insanely talented Broadway legend while she worked her magic, I could feel the audience giving it back.

Maybe it was partially Murphy herself who brought about this change - because I went to BroadwayCon later that month and saw her on a panel about audition stories and the panelists all emphasized our uniqueness, and suddenly I felt like I didn't have to compare myself to others. Suddenly I felt I could start trying again. That's when I realized maybe there's hope for me. Maybe I am enough, maybe I am worth it. Something was missing from my life and I think it was theatre. I saw more Broadway shows last year than since I felt myself sinking futher into depression. Musical theatre completes me - and Hello, Dolly, this panel at BroadwayCon, and meeting and connecting with Murphy and experiencing her kindness - these all helped me realize that. Murphy has told me to be good to myself and to keep doing what I love, and I'm trying. Now I want to take on the world. I want to live life to the fullest and do better, be better, be the best version of me. I want to live those dreams and work toward them.

I started taking voice lessons again. I saw more theatre. I went to New York City (which I've always cited as my happy place, where dreams come true, where I've met most of my inspirations) a lot. I made plans to move there soon, and to no longer take no for an answer, to keep trying. Because really, "I've had enough of just passing by life". Who wants to watch life just pass by and miss out on so much because you don't feel like you're good enough? And just because anxiety and depression tells you you're not worth it? That's not living. That's what I got out of Hello, Dolly.

Murphy returned to the role of Dolly in July and August of 2018, and I got to see her (and talk to her at the stage door) several more times, now with this awareness of what she and Dolly mean to me, and I got to take several friends with me, as well as make several friends through the show. Those were wonderful days I will always remember, and moments I will always cherish.

I wanted to show how we've all been changed by one musical. We've all struggled, we've all been inspired by this magical show. These friends, the people I interviewed for this article, we've all been changed by this extraordinary show.

Before the Parade...

I look back on 2018 with fondness because of all the memories attached to Hello, Dolly, and I honestly don't know where I'd be now if I hadn't found this show when I did. I don't know what I would want out of life; I don't know if I'd have any dreams, or what would keep be going.

Life before Dolly, for all of us, wasn't as bright.

Robbyne had also just lost her grandmother and that loss made her lose hope in her dreams. "I was in a very dark place,"she wrote. Zach was also in a dark place: "I felt trapped, like my life was on autopilot and I was stuck in a rut. Work life was far from perfect, I felt isolated, and was struggling with depression for the first time in many years."

Allie went to see the show with her mother, and noticed a connection between Dolly and her mom. "[My mom] is an incredibly strong inspiring woman who has sacrificed so much for her family. At the time she was in the process of divorcing my dad who had been abusive and terrible to her for my entire life. My mom reached a point where she realized that her marriage was not healthy for her or her children and left her husband of twenty-five years."

Another fan, Kaity, had also experienced loss. "I was floundering. I didn’t know what to do with my life. My dad had passed away about 2.5 years prior, and I felt guilty for feeling joy when I didn’t have him in my life."

Then we all bought a ticket to see this classic, joyous Broadway musical, and were all transported to Yonkers and New York City for a journey to happiness.

In the Theatre

I asked each fan what specifically about the show and the performances that moved us, and so many of the answers were similar, but it was also really interesting to see the differences. Something different captured each of our hearts. The most commonly moving moment was also my favorite, "Before the Parade Passes By". At Murphy's last performance in August, I remember sobbing at intermission after this song, because it was so emotional and so powerful, and I was there sharing it one last time with so many of the friends I'd made through this show.

Rebecca, who also saw Donna Murphy, wrote, "I especially loved her approach to ‘Parade’, the way she went through a whole range of different emotions was very touching and made everybody in the audience connect with the character and her story... I also was very worried that she would start crying during ‘Parade’ in her first performance (I certainly did) because it was so incredibly charged with emotion."

Allie, who saw Bernadette Peters, said, "As we were watching the show...I had a moment of realization during the song 'Before the Parade Passes By' of just how similar my mom was to Dolly. They were both strong talented women who, for different reasons, were coming out of dark periods in their lives. And even though they were older they still had fight left, they still had the ability to get life back into their lives!"

"Dolly reclaiming her heart and her joy from years of grief and sorrow, and I needed that so much," Kaity wrote. "I needed to see Dolly’s heart coming alive again, reclaiming her life before the parade passed her by. I needed the joy of the technicolor Sunday Clothes, of the pastel wonderland of 'Dancing'. I needed it all. I needed this wonderful woman more than I ever knew." She also mentioned an incredible line near the end of the show, as spoken by Cornelius Hackl: "The world is full of wonderful things!" It's amazing how a simple line like that can make you smile and make you see the world a little differently.

Zach, who was lucky enough to see all three Dollys in the Broadway production, mentioned the famous "Oak Leaf Monologue" and Murphy's characterization. "[Donna Murphy] connected with this role in a way I have only rarely seen from any actor or actress in any kind of role, and it was moving from start to finish. Her interpretation of Dolly was one of a woman ready to reclaim her life, to stop living from day-to-day and really savor the feeling of living in the moment and celebrating the big and small things that make life worth living." The Oak Leaf Monologue happens right before "Before the Parade Passes By" and is a monologue to Dolly's late husband Ephraim. Dolly wants to let go of the pain, "rejoin the human race", and carry on. "She claims her own agency in that moment," Zach wrote, "and reclaims her life after years of grieving and trying to avoid moving on out of fear of losing her beloved Ephraim forever."

Robbyne, who also saw all three of the Dollys, was moved by a scene between Dolly and Horace toward the end of the show. Dolly asks Horace, "Am I a somebody?" Robbyne says, "As someone who’s always been very insecure and felt invisible, it always spoke deeply to my heart, and it made me feel like maybe I could matter too."

Others connected to different aspects of Dolly and the performances. Lorraine, who saw Bernadette Peters, wrote, "I love Dolly for the fact the lead is outspoken in a time where women should be meek, that she stands her ground, shows how to make an entrance and how to outwit many a man."

Life After the Parade

Theatre can change our lives even in the smallest way. Rebecca wrote that every Tuesday she thought of Donna Dolly Tuesdays, since in her original run, Murphy was the alternate and performed only on Tuesdays (and during Bette Midler's scheduled vacations).

"I left the theatre feeling more open and joyful than I had felt in years," Kaity said. She also wrote, "Hello, Dolly has connected to me to amazing people, both fans of the show and performers in the show. The show itself gave me a place of refuge while it was running, a safe place to just forget my troubles and be immersed in Dolly’s world for 2.5 hours. I’m a completely different person now than I was before I saw Hello, Dolly, and I’m so much better for it."

"After seeing Hello, Dolly and meeting [Donna Murphy] at the stage door," Christian wrote, "I felt that I could be happy more often. I also felt that I could live my life once more. Dealing with certain things in my private life, that show taught me that I can begin my life again. I can un-pause and continue the chapter I was meant to live and to finish. That we all deserve to be happy and to have seconds chances in all areas in our lives."

Robbyne wrote, "Donna Murphy has taught me so much about the integrity and humility I aspire to have, and the way I hope to make people feel through kindness and caring...She is just captivating to watch. Her authenticity and talent just radiate the entire time she is performing...Seeing her strength, and her ability to keep going through the pain [of loss] and to continue her acting career, made me want to try again in my own. I had given up hope when I lost my Grama. [Donna Murphy] was the one to reignite my acting goals and dreams."

Zach wrote, "I'm a more positive and optimistic person for having experienced this show...Like Dolly, I found a drive to rejoin the human race, to stop wasting away in loneliness, and to seize the day and the opportunities I see right in front of me...Highs are a bit higher now, and the lows last a little less of a long time."  He also said, "Hello, Dolly is one of those shows that from the first note of the overture to the last note of the curtain call is about being positive, about facing challenges, about meeting them head on, about never taking no for an answer when it comes to our own happiness and the happiness of others."

So Long, Dearie

Hello, Dolly closed on Broadway in August 2018, and is now on tour across the country starring Betty Buckley as Dolly. If you have a chance, and especially if you need a little inspiration, go see it. Any show closing on Broadway is sad for its fans, but fans of Dolly are keeping the love and inspiration taught by this wonderful show alive in our hearts. It's not always easy to keep going, after having such a light in our lives. I know I try to carry the messages of Dolly and the journey of this character with me, and always will.

Allie said, "This show and what it helped me learn about my mom helped me see that it really doesn’t matter where you are in life, it’s never too late to grab life by the horns and make a difference."

Zach described his life after Dolly as more positive. "I notice the joy around me more often, and humming the tunes from the show helps me get through some of the tougher times life has thrown at me."

"I am forever changed by the beauty and the heart of this show," Robbyne wrote, "It is filled with memories that I will treasure deeply for the rest of my life. From special moments during the many shows, to my personal interactions and conversations with [Donna Murphy], to meeting some of my dearest friends because of Hello, Dolly. I am permanently changed in some amazing ways."

"I try to live my life how Dolly (and [Donna Murphy]) would want me to, with joy and heart. I take leaps, and I try not to hide behind a cloud of grief. I know my dad would want me to be happy, and that’s what I try to do, always," Kaity said. "The first time I met Donna Murphy at stage door, I told her that I felt true joy for the first time since my dad passed in that theatre. I told her that I felt so guilty feeling that joy previously, but I felt like he would want this for me."

Be positive. Feel joy. Feel the freedom to be happy after a loss or a tragedy in our lives. Never take no for an answer and move forward. Hold your head up high. Live life to the fullest. Keep dancing. Feel you heart coming alive again.

These are just a few things we found through Hello, Dolly. As Dolly sings in the title song, "It's so nice to be back home where I belong."

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Special Thanks

Thanks to all those I interviewed for the article: Robbyne, Zach, Kaity, Rebecca, Allie, Lorraine, Christian. You all deserved your stories to be told. I am sorry I had to condense so many of your wonderful, eloquent, emotional answers. We were all moved by Dolly, so inspired by the magic inside the Shubert Theatre. Let that magic live on forever. To all the friends I found through Dolly, this is for all of us. Happy Dolly-versary to those of you who were there that night.

Special thanks to everyone involved in the 2017-2018 Broadway revival of Hello, Dolly, especially those mentioned in interview answers: Donna Murphy (especially), Bernadette Peters, Bette Midler, Kate Baldwin, Gavin Creel, David Hyde Pierce, Victor Garber, Santino Fontana, Taylor Trensch, and Charlie Stemp.

"Dolly'll never go away again."

Thank you.

I Don't Need a Life That's Normal

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Darren Wildeman

Warning: This article contains mentions of suicide, depression, and mental illness as portrayed in Next to Normal, some of which could be disturbing to some people. If you or anyone you know is in a crisis, The National suicide hotline is 1-800-273-8255

Honestly, I’ve had this article open for probably at least 20 minutes and haven’t known where to start. It’s not because I don’t know what to say – rather the opposite. I have so much to say, but I don’t know what order to put it in. In case you didn’t get the reference of the title, Next to Normal is my favourite musical. Which to those of you who know the musical might partially explain my dilemma. Let’s just start at the beginning.

I had recently got into Musical Theatre and came across the cast album on Spotify and immediately enjoyed it and could tell it was a heartbreaker but didn’t totally understand the big plot twist. One viewing of the musical later, I was in love. I had always been sympathetic towards mental illness and the portrayal of it in Next to Normal is absolutely heart wrenching and beautiful (I’ll go into some of the specifics later). 

Next to Normal is by far the show I’ve seen most often. As I stated earlier it’s one of my favourites. However, then just over a year ago something happened. I had my first ever panic attack. I’m not going to go through all the ins and outs of what happened but to make a long story short, some bad anxiety, 2 therapists, and many doctor appointments letter I was also diagnosed with chronic depression

As I said I’ve watched Next to Normal multiple times, but my first time watching it after I started struggling with my mental health hit home so hard. I can relate to so many things in it from both Dan and Diana.

Let’s dive deeper into this musical and why I love it so much. Right away at the start of the show we kind of see an odd family dynamic. “Just Another Day” displays how everyone feels, and that all the characters feel off or have something wrong. I like this. It doesn’t only present Diana, who we find out later on as the one who’s suffering the show is based around. But we see that each member of the family has problems and things that feel wrong. Not only do they have problems but they’re all trying to cover them up as if things are normal. They’re literally trying to pretend that it’s “Just Another Day” and there is absolutely nothing wrong.

This is something I think everyone, not only with mental illness tries to do, but anyone with any type of problem. We want to pretend it’s okay and cover it up. When people ask how we are we’re more inclined to say “fine” than to give an honest answer. No matter how much we’re suffering, or how hurt we are, we really do try to treat every day like it is just another day. There have been times where I’ve been hurting the most but there is no way anyone who looked at me would have been able to tell.

The end of this song and Diana’s actions of making sandwiches on the floor give us our first hard look into Diana’s life.

…and another and another and another I will hold it all together we’re the perfect loving family if they say we’re not then f--- them we’re the perfect loving family. I will keep the place all spinning, the world just keeps on spinning- I think the house is spinning

For those of you who aren’t as familiar with mental illness, Diana has Bipolar disorder. Simply put what this illness does is it will cause someone to cycle between depressive states and manic states. And in a manic state someone feels like they have all the energy in the world and it can also make them feel invincible and lead to dangerous behaviour. In this case Diana is making many sandwiches on the floor, while singing about wanting to be normal, and then she seems to realize what she’s down and how much she’s exerted herself by talking about the world is spinning. She wanted to do something for her family but being in a manic state still caused her issues.

I also really feel this. Sometimes my illness causes me to do something, where I have the best intentions, or thought I was doing something good even, but wound up making a big mistake or hurting someone. It’s happened a couple times where I wasn’t aware what I was doing and did the wrong thing. Not that Diana making sandwiches inherently hurt someone but she also came to the realization that she wasn’t doing something entirely right either.

What’s going on with Diana becomes even more clear when she visits her psychopharmacologist. As they discuss her medication. However, we’re going to jump back to this in a minute. I want to jump now to what’s going on with Dan.
 

Who's crazy, the husband or wife?

Who's crazy to live their whole life

Believing that somehow things aren't as bizarre as they are?

Who's crazy, the one who can't cope?

Or maybe, the one who'll still hope?

The one who sees doctors or the one who just waits in the car?

This is how Dan opens the song and it’s really our first real look into what’s going on inside his head. He knows his wife is sick. He wants to help, but it’s clear he doesn’t totally understand. On top of that he’s also still trying to process his own hurt (more on this later). He’s supportive but he waits in the car. He wants to help but he doesn’t know how.

The questions Dan is asking here are ones that people or loved ones with mental health ask often. They can see something is wrong but they can’t totally comprehend it. Heck, even I ask myself these questions. I know I have chronic depression. I know I have multiple forms of anxiety. And yet it’s still hard to wrap your mind around. It’s hard to acknowledge you’re actually sick. It’s hard to acknowledge your illness is real and it’s hard to acknowledge it isn’t something you or your loved one won’t be able to just snap out of. There are always so many questions around mental illness and one of the best things you can do for someone who suffers is to show them patience.

Going back to Diana, now we see a multiple week stint of getting her to try different medications. This I feel is somewhat more common knowledge. As Diana says herself in the show medications aren’t an exact science and this is something I am also going through myself right now as I recently had my medications quit working. Adjusting and figuring out medication combos can be tired, exhausting work. Eventually we see Diana just go numb and give up on her medications in “I Miss the Mountains” which is also another super relatable song for anyone struggling. You want your life back. You want to be how things were. But you can’t. You’re sick. You need help. But you miss how you were. It’s a really tough feeling to deal with.

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Even though my “normal self” even not being Bipolar would still hit extreme highs and the bad lows… as far as I knew I was healthy, hurting a bit maybe but healthy. There comes a longing for your old self and who you were before the illness. Diana here is also talking about the highs. Those highs aren’t good for someone with Bipolar, but at the same time there is nothing worse than numbness. I’ve had that a few times and going numb is the absolute worst feeling in the world.

Now comes the scene that makes everyone cry. When we realize that Diana’s son Gabe isn’t there and Diana has been hallucinating him this entire time. I really can’t comment on this as I am not a parent but I can’t even imagine that heartache that’s involved in losing a child. However, one thing I will comment on is the use of Gabe in Next to Normal.

Throughout the entire musical even when Gabe’s ghost isn’t directly a part of the scene Gabe can often be seen lurking in the background. He’s a constant reminder as to what’s going on in the family. He doesn’t just follow Diana around either. He follows around Dan and Natalie as well. He’s a constant reminder of both what happened, and Diana’s illness. It’s a constant burden on the family.

While it isn’t totally the same but quite often my mental illness makes me seem like a burden. Like Gabe in the show, it is constantly lurking in the background. Even when things are okay it’s always there in the background. A reminder. A sense that something is still off even when there is no reason to be off. And something that can affect your relationships.

As I said we see Gabe and the illness following around the other family members and nowhere else do we see it to the same extent as “Superboy and the Invisible Girl.” We see the toll it has taken on Natalie; she feels alone, lost, and neglected. It’s one of the many negative things mental illness can do. Both to the person suffering and their loved ones. This song is also great because of the irony it uses. Natalie is singing about her and Gabe as if she is the one who is a ghost, and he’s real. At least in Diana’s eyes.

We see more of Gabe’s presence in the family in “I’m Alive”, once again affirming what his continued presence, and Diana’s illness, does to the family. Diana gives one last chance to let him go. However, she unfortunately sees him and lets him lead her away into a suicide attempt. I love this scene from a mental health perspective despite how heart breaking it is.

When you hear about suicide, some people are still of the notion that “it’s their fault” or “they could have avoided it.” However, this so clearly illustrates that when a person goes into a suicide attempt their mind is not in the right place. They aren’t thinking like the people on the outside looking in are thinking, as we see here with Diana. When someone gets that desperate and lonely, they aren’t thinking straight.

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Now we come to one of the most heartbreaking moments of the show for me. Dan’s solo song “I’ve Been” We saw bits of Dan’s suffering in his part in the past but “I’ve Been” brings it out even more. Diana just made her suicide attempt and Dan is reeling. We see his pain, the emotion, and for the first time we really see how much Dan is suffering almost as much as Diana.

 

And all my fears just sit inside me

Screaming to be heard

I know they won’t though

Not a single word

He’s acknowledging he has fears, he’s acknowledging his issues and all his pain, but because of Diana’s illness he can’t get them out. They’re stuck inside him and he has no hope of getting them out

He then continues to talk about being alone. Diana has been his constant. Despite her issue she’s been there always and he’s loved her, and always tried to help despite not always knowing how to help (as we saw previously in “Who’s Crazy”) but now as Dan himself says “he needs a lift”

Then comes the heartbreaking piece where he says his is just a slower suicide. He might not be actively doing things like Diana was, but Dan is really hurting. Badly.

As someone with mental illness I can relate to a lot of this. Not that I know someone who’s made an attempt but a lot of the feelings Dan expresses here are relevant. There’s times where I need that boost or lift he talks about but at the same time I have no one around. It’s so much thoughts and feelings he has that have all been bottled and pent up. Which is also something myself and a lot of people deal with. There are so many different things I have dealt with over time that even though I’m not getting help a lot of things still haven’t been touched. It’s a process, it takes time, and for the first time we see Dan acknowledges his hurt, and just how deep it goes. He’s always had Diana but now that she made an attempt on her life and needs treatment, he himself has to think about some of this own pain as well.

As for the line about it being a slower suicide. While Dan isn’t trying to actively end his life or didn’t do something like Diana just tried it is possible to be passively suicidal. There comes a point where a person while they might not go jump of a bridge to end their life, the idea of say accidentally falling off a bridge doesn’t bother them. They might think of ways they could end their life but have no intention of going through. The hurt is just so bad they think of ways they could escape. I honestly think Dan is dealing with some of this right now. He’s hurting for Diana, but he’s also hurting for himself. If she actually died, he might consider following her.

Act 2 opens with Diana receiving ECT treatment for a couple weeks, in hopes that it will help her Bipolar disorder and hallucinations of her son. It has some positive effect, but also greatly kills her memory. It’s a little bit later into Act 2 when Diana asks Dan “Why Stay?”, when Dan shows his resolve as to being a loving husband and always being there.

I cannot state how important this is for someone with mental illness. I’ve had a couple people in my life who have stayed by my side no matter what and always having someone there means a lot. Not leaving no matter how bad it gets or how down on myself I get. Dan’s resilience here is amazing.

When the medication and treatment failed to work, we see Diana start to question why she is like this.

What happens if the cut, the burn, the break was never in my brain,

or in my blood, but in my soul?

For someone who suffers, especially for a long time, this is true. It’s also something I’ve been through and still struggle with. You wonder what if I’m just this broken?  What if I’ll be like this forever? What if it’s my fault? You can’t help but think nothing will help you, and you might just be permanently broken. It’s a really hopeless and helpless feeling and you honestly feel like you’re resigned to be sick and broken forever and nothing will help. As I said earlier I’m struggling with medication dosages and finding something that works so I personally have had to deal with a lot of feelings like this.

Shortly after this we see one of the first real conversations Diana and Natalie have had. I talked in “Superboy and the Invisible Girl” how it was making Natalie feel isolated, but now we see them actually talking.

However, even after all this Diana still ends up needing to leave. This can also be a real thing for someone with mental illness. Not that I’ve necessarily needed to leave my family and go live my myself. However, there have been friendships, or things in my life that have taken breaks since I started suffering. I’ve even had times where I took a few days off of my duties from ATB because I needed some space and time. It doesn’t even have to be a physical thing like Diana did. However, that physical thing is so symbolic of what people who suffer might need to do sometimes.

It’s also when Diana leaves we get a big moment for Dan again as well. Earlier we talked about how Gabe would follow people around the stage as a constant reminder of what is going on with Diana and what is hurting this family. Here we see Gabe sitting beside Dan, and eventually, Dan finally says his name. It’s the first time Dan has truly acknowledged Gabe’s presence in the house, and what happened. We saw earlier in the show that Dan wouldn’t even say his name and now he died.

This isn’t as relatable obviously, however, most people who suffer do have something they need to acknowledge. For my early on it was hard to acknowledge that I was having panic attacks and did have anxiety. It was hard to acknowledge I needed help. A lot of people have something that’s just constantly lingering around them that they need to name and get help for. Whether it be like in the case of Next to Normal the death of someone, or for some people it might be an addiction, or just that they refuse to get help for depression or anxiety. It can be so hard to admit there is something like that lingering but it is also so important.

This is now the end of the show where it ends on a happy note of “Light” I personally like that they ended on a hopeful note but also left he ending up for interpretation. In the finale I see Diana coming home to her loving husband, but beyond that we don’t know what happens to each character which I like.

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It’s also true for anyone who suffers. You can have that optimism but at the same time you don’t know where it will take you. That door is wide open.

Overall, Next to Normal is a very heartfelt show that is so relatable to people who deal with any sort of mental illness. To seeing how Gabe follows around members of the family, to seeing the relationship Dan and Diana have. There is at least something in this show that many people who suffer can relate to. I hope I helped shed a light on some of that. I obviously did not cover everything, as there is a lot to unpack in this show. I tried to keep it more to the parts that are relevant to my experiences, and what I can relate to. I hope that you enjoyed and that maybe you were able to gain some appreciation for both Next to Normal as a whole and those who suffer from mental illness.

And to anyone reading this who like me does suffer. Keep hanging in there. Hopefully one day we too will be able to see the light.

All photos used are courtesy of Grandstreet Theatre 

The Magic of Theatre

We all have our reasons for loving theatre, and more often than not, it’s for reasons much more personal to the audience member in particular! It is more than just the spectacle, the score, the choreography, and personally having realized that I love theatre for the spectacle and extravaganza of it all (of course), but I now feel a true connection to theatre and can actually acknowledge what theatre can do for somebody at every level.

You see, it wasn’t until 2013 or 2014 that I really became obsessed with musical theatre and all it encompasses, however I was naive and didn’t bother to investigate any time into what made me love it so much, or why I wanted to go to the theatre so often, and even see the same show over and over again. This is something I never thought I would broadcast publicly but I think it is invaluable that I discuss how theatre has changed my life and the magic that I have found in it.

Photo by nevarpp/iStock / Getty Images

Photo by nevarpp/iStock / Getty Images

Two years ago I was diagnosed with epilepsy, which you could quite possibly say it was one of the worst days of my life. I was in a rut, a permanent state of shock, disbelief, and anger. And nothing, I mean NOTHING, could change the way I was feeling. Until a couple of weeks later when my sister (younger but wiser) told me to think back on positive memories I have made in the theatre and from that moment on I listened to songs from all of my favorite musicals, this instantly changed my mood and made me feel giddy and happy, something I hadn’t felt for a while. Once I was given the ok to go to the theatre I didn’t walk I ran! Theatre, musicals, and plays have all impacted my life, when I felt sad there was a song for that, when I was frustrated there was something for that too, every emotion I felt the theatre had a way of making me feel better! The theatre is an escape for me. As soon as I take my seat, I am transported to a completely different world, where my problems don’t exist, where I am just your average teenager. There is nothing as magical as this, and it’s safe to say my life will never be the same again because of how transformative each and every experience I have had since then has been! Through the good days and the bad I know that there will always be something in the theatre realm that will make me feel a million times better! I truly believe that for every problem there is a solution to be found, whether it is through seeing a show live, listening to a cast album or simply thinking back on the memories.

Have you experienced anything that makes you believe in the true magic of Theatre?

 

Grief and Depression: How Theatre Pulled Me Through

SarahLynn Mangan

Everyone is told their life is going to be a roller coaster and you won't get anything out of it unless you just keep riding and moving forward, I have found this to be very true.

As a young child life was wonderful, I had four amazing older siblings and two wonderful parents. We were all into performing arts either being on the stage dancing in ballet, singing at school shows or performing in theatre camps. Especially two of my older sisters and I as we are the closest in age, (my brother being twelve years older than me and my other sister eighteen years older than me). Our parents were very supportive and were known to always be willing to get us to rehearsal, give us flowers after performances, provide food for cast members and help backstage. We were known as the family that always wanted to be working in a theatre.

Unfortunately, just twenty days after my tenth birthday my father passed away. He had a disease known as ALS or as I like to tell people “that disease that the ice bucket challenge was for.” He was diagnosed when I was seven and died in his sleep just under two and a half years later. I am grateful that he was no longer a brain trapped inside a paralyzed body- the disease does not affect the brain but rather shuts down every other motor function within the body-so I was happy to see him finally released to serenity but also was reminded of all the things that a daughter typically does with her father.  He will never me down the aisle when I get married to someone I love, never intimidate the people I date, and most importantly to me was that he would never be able to see me nor my other siblings perform again.

I recently stumbled upon my father’s old blog that he used to document his life with the disease and at one point he had written “I really want to beat this thing that is trying to take me before my girls have a chance to grow up” and “I would like to live to see the rest of my daughters and son married, and to see my daughters at least graduate from High School” unfortunately he never even got to see me graduate elementary school.

My entire family had hoped he would have lived just four days longer so he would at least be able to see my sisters and I in our summer ballet performance, but that was not the case. So instead we were told to perform to the best of our abilities and dedicate it to our father. This I did so without delay and wholeheartedly, for I believed he could watch us and that he would be proud to have called me his daughter.

After that performance, we all quit dancing and performing to be able to grief.

That was my first mistake.

I knew that performing was my passion ever since taking my first step out into the lights as a little bon-bon in The Nutcracker and I knew it was an outlet. When something tragic happens to someone so young, they don’t know how to process it and neither did I.

After taking the summer off I jumped back into theatre with being cast as Suzi Spider in Tiny Thumbelina in my fifth-grade musical at my expressive arts elementary school. I continued to participate in theatre camp shows as well, but I knew something was missing from my performances and that I was slowly but surely retracting from my extroverted self who would start singing and dancing musicals anytime I deemed it necessary (which was always).

Almost a year after my father's passing I was given the opportunity to be in my first community theatre production. I was ecstatic because I knew that if I could do this I would be able to show my father he could still be proud of me. I was a part of the youth ensemble for Joseph and the Amazing Technicolor Dreamcoat and in this production, the rehearsal process was quick, we hardly interacted with the adults, and were on stage for the entire show except for “Potiphar.” I remember on opening night I was dancing downstage center in the song “Go Go Go Joseph” and I started to tear up because I felt as though my father was somehow watching me and applauding me on.

After that production, I truly felt as though I would go back to normal, I got confidence back and was ready to continue in life. I had found a way to still feel connected to my father and not feel so alone in my journey of processing my grief.

Joseph and the Amazing Technicolor Dreamcoat at Tacoma Musical Playhouse 2012    Photo courtesy of Kat Dollarhide    

Joseph and the Amazing Technicolor Dreamcoat at Tacoma Musical Playhouse 2012

Photo courtesy of Kat Dollarhide

 

Skip forward a few years in life and I had become deeply depressed. I went to a middle school that was promised to be getting a great performing arts program but after my sixth-grade year, dance, theatre, and choir were all taken away because funding for the programs had fallen through. With my mom now being the households only income and still taking care of three children (one soon to go on to college) we didn’t have the money to do all the theatre camps that I had become a regular attendee at.

I was too scared to tell my mother or even my family about my depression which didn’t help me with feeling valid for my emotions. Everyone who states that they have depression are doubted until they have the doctor's diagnosis. I also didn’t want to admit to failure of living the best life I could in honor of my father, but I knew things would just get worse if I didn’t find a way to cope.

When I entered high school, it had gotten so bad that the only ways I would find relief of my depression was from being an unhealthy person, telling myself that it was my fault my father had died, and doing many regrettable and stupid things, (but that is for another day).

My sophomore year had come around and rumors in my family had been spread around about my depression and unhealthy lifestyle, but no one believed it because I only showed who I used to be to the world and not who I had become. No one believed it until my mother found me crying in the bathroom before school one day. She finally made an appointment and brought me to the doctors.

I got diagnosed with clinical depression and was put on antidepressants and encouraged to seek therapy (however therapy did not seem like a feasible thing due to the expense and inability to connect with a therapist). After four weeks when they finally started working, everyone could tell. I was more flamboyant and always singing and dancing to show-tunes just like my younger self.

However, during this time of healing, my grades were suffering and the possibility of graduating in two years was slipping away before my eyes. I failed two classes which meant I had to spend my summer in school to try and get my credits back. Many of my friends I had made in choir and old theatre friends were going to do a summer theatre camp that I used to attend and would have attended if I could have. When I saw their performance, I wanted to cry because all I wanted to do was be on the stage with them.

At that moment, I decided that it was time for me to get back into the theatre scene and make my mark again. I auditioned for the play “Blithe Spirit” which was going to be put on at a local community theatre and directed by someone who had helped first spark my interest in theatre all together. When I got the call that I would be playing the maid Edith I started screaming of happiness before I even hung up (the stage manager and I laughed about it later because she clearly heard me screaming for joy). I was finally going to be back on the stage and with people who are highly thought of in the theatre scene in my county.

When rehearsals started, I knew that those people and that show would be the show to truly bring me out of my depression. I had a schedule, people who relied on me, and a family who believed in me. That theatre experience was what finally helped me achieve my goal of being a healthy person who didn’t have to rely on supplements to be able to live a semi normal life.

The cast of Blithe Spirit at Tacoma Little Theatre 2017

The cast of Blithe Spirit at Tacoma Little Theatre 2017

It has now been five months since that show closed and I am currently performing in my third community theatre production and in rehearsals for my fourth of my junior year of high school. I reconnected with my old drama teacher in elementary school and assistant directed her production of “Charlotte’s Web” at my old school. I have also been accepted into a performing arts college (yet to decide if I will attend due to financial and such), and am exploring other options for college.

Although it may not seem like such a major triumph to some people, I have had the ability to discover myself again and be the person everyone knows I am again because of theatre and it is truly remarkable. It has always been there and will always be there as a reminder of the first time I felt a connection with my father after his death and the first time I felt free to be myself and come back out of depression again.